I can only assume that you found this page because a time of your life that was supposed to consist of love and happiness, unexpectedly has turned to unimaginable heartbreak and sorrow...the loss of a child.

Whether you found my website on your own or someone who cares about you sent you here, I would like to extend my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. I am sending you so many virtual hugs. I see you. I see your pain. I remember that pain like it happened yesterday. I was 15.5 weeks pregnant when I lost my daughter, Chloe, in an abusive situation. I didn't have much support following my loss. At that time, my only priority was to get myself and my earthside six month old out of that situation. It took years for me to speak up about my loss and actually allow myself to start healing, grieving, and processing that loss.

grief | /ɡrēf/ | noun | deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone's death

Grief is a normal part of being a human. It is a deep, overwhelming sadness after losing something we loved. Everyone expresses their grief in different ways; crying, screaming, silence, etc. There is no wrong way to grieve. There is also no timeframe, but I can guarantee you that it will last longer than you expect. It will also sneak up on you years later. Grief is love that has no place to go.

Do not let anyone tell you that you should be done grieving by a certain time. Do not let anyone tell you that the length of your pregnancy determines the amount of sadness you are "allowed" to have. No matter the age, I want you to remember that your baby existed...your baby mattered. Your baby will always matter.